The fact is that the HSTS transwoman’s dream–of finding a young, fit, handsome, financially secure, STRAIGHT Mr Right, who will stick around, will but rarely happen and a lot of broken hearts are made along the way. I know there are some exceptions and I wish them all the very best. So who is the ideal partner for an HSTS?
Most straight men will eventually want children; I don’t care what they say. This will hit them usually no later than their mid-thirties, and by and large, that’s when the fantasy ends; they go and find a genetic woman who can provide what they’re looking for. Adoption just doesn’t cut it for men, unless it’s the only recourse because they are sterile themselves.
Love of transwomen is a little-discussed area. There are at least two forms, in males: Autogynephilic and non-Autogynephilic. Plus, since there are actually two distinct types of males who appear to be women, unsurprisingly this affects the type of men who display love of transwomen.
Nice bump, baby.
A ‘Homosexual’ in the original definition, understood throughout history and everywhere in the world until after World War Two and changed only in the West, is an unmasculine male. This conforms to other terms used elsewhere in the world, like kathoey, bakla and travesti. It also conforms to older Western terms like catamite. Obviously, the most complete expression of this is the Homosexual Transsexual.
However in the West, because of Kinsey, ‘homosexual’ has come to mean ‘male who has sex with other males’. I’ve addressed this HERE. This was extremely unhelpful and has spawned reams of claptrap about ‘same sex attraction’ and ‘sexed bodies’. These concepts are nonsensical. The function of gender is to attract; we are attracted to gender and not to sex. Love of transwomen, on the part of a man, is therefore not in itself homosexual.
Homosexuals
Homosexuals may be smaller, lighter and more neotenous than other males. They are cross-gender identified from childhood. All such males have the potential to be successful as women. They are attracted to masculine gender features—muscular taught bodies, facial hair, prominent jaws, assertive attitude and so on.
If it were as simple as that, then that would be it. But it’s not. There are some other issues to deal with, especially where the girl retains a penis. I’ve made a YouTube video discussing this, here.
I see a lot of immature, childish videos and web posts denigrating ladyboys and telling men how to spot — and so avoid — them. But why would anybody want to avoid them? Here are ten reasons why dating ladyboys is a really good idea.
Homosexual Gender Dysphoria is a function of the relationship of sexuality to gender. Here, presenting socially, sexually and romantically as a man, when you have female sexuality, is the root of the discomfort. These individuals may strongly reject using their penises to penetrate and even refuse any sexual contact with them. They wish to appear to be feminine and to have masculine male partners, and to play the receptive sexual role; anything that conflicts with these will cause dysphoria. (The inverse applies in females.)
These indicators may become visible as early as thirty months, though more commonly around forty, and in genuinely pre-transsexual children, or transkids, will likely be ‘insistent, consistent and persistent’ by age four to five.
The total referrals for Gender Dysphoria in the last year accounted for were some 2500, up from 97 eight years before. Of these later figures, 1800 were young females. Nearly 2000 were under 18, in the previous year alone. That beats any stats on this, anywhere and to make it even more shocking, whereas the historic prevalence amongst females has always been less than 1/3 that for males, in the more recent referrals this is reversed, with more than 2/3 being female. But what has this to do with Feminism?
In classic theory, gender transition is provoked by Gender Dysphoria, a sense of more or less intense discomfort at being obliged to socially present as the gender one’s birth sex might suggest. It occurs in males and females and in two completely distinct forms in each: homosexual and non-homosexual. This might not always seem to be the most sympathetic way to triage the forms, especially in cultures which remain deeply uncomfortable with sex, such as the Anglo-Saxon ones, but it works.
It has become fashionable, in the West, to ascribe certain meanings to the word homosexual that were not intended when it was coined. This began with the publication of the Kinsey Reports in 1948. Originally, the term meant ‘an unmasculine male who is receptive in sex with other males’ and so conformed exactly to Asian terms like bakla and kathoey, and to similar terms globally, for example travesti in Brazil. It also was a direct equivalent to terms like catamite, as well as others. Today we might usefully use the word bottom in the vernacular.
It was coined in the late 19th century by an Austrian-born Hungarian psychologist, Karoly Maria Benkert and was quickly adopted by others. The term applied exclusively to a type of person. It did not refer to a set of acts, as there were already terms for those, such as sodomy and buggery. Indeed, many homosexuals did not even engage in these acts, as Freud noted. The crucial issues were the subjects’ rejection of masculinity in themselves and their unreserved attraction to it in others.
This is what a Homosexual should look like. Cute bulge, pet.
Autogynephilia (AGP) is ‘A man’s propensity to be aroused at the thought or image of himself as a woman’ (Blanchard) and it is the main cause of non-homosexual gender dysphoria in males. But what actually causes it? The key to this lies in first understanding that there is nothing at all unusual about a male with Autogynephilia, other than the Autogynephilia itself.
Autogynephilia has five recognised forms, transvestic, anatomical, physiological, behavioural and interpersonal, and these may occur in combination. Men with it have three sexual orientations: they may be gynephilic (heterosexual, attracted to women), analloerotic (having no sexual relations at all with others or pseudo-bisexual, (pursuing sex with men but only when in role as a woman). In the last case, where the individual lives full-time as a woman, he may only have relations with men, but these are still pseudo-bisexual. In Blanchard’s testing, the proportions were about 60:20:20, but this may have changed and also appears to be culturally dependent. All forms, however, are principally gynephilic. As Blanchard said, ‘You have to be gynephilic to be Autogynephilic.’
Autogynephilia is ‘a man’s propensity to be sexually aroused at the thought or image of himself as a woman’. For many practical purposes we might restate that as ‘a man’s overwhelming desire to be a woman’, to ‘become that which he loves’ and so on. It is a man’s deeply-felt identification with the object of his desire. So what might social autogynephilia be?
Men and ladyboys — how do they relate? This series of articles will explore the topic.
Woman but not female
So where does that leave the ladyboy? She is woman but not female. What can she do?
Perhaps she might seek Genital Reconstruction Surgery, to give herself a replica of the Goddess’ treasure. But wait; many transwomen, who have had GRS, say that their former partners then avoid them. This is even the case where the bakla is uniquely receptive in sex. But suddenly, equipped with her new vagina, finding men becomes hard. I know post-ops who are resigned to having to pay men for sex for the rest of their lives. Some of them are damn hot women, as well as charming people, both capable of great love and desperate to give it. How can this be?
They’re the elephant in the room, where relations between transwomen and men are concerned.
Elephant, you say? Well, almost without exception, the assertion is made that the men who like transwomen are straight. Yet when you talk to transwomen in private, a very different picture appears. Half at least of men who seek out transwomen far from being straight or anything close, are closet autogynephiliacs (AGP) (and homophobic to boot). They’re not homosexual, but they are gay.
We would not expect honesty from these men about this; after all, look at the lengths they go just to deny their own sexuality and maintain a false façade of hetero-normativity. The elephant must be hidden. Their words may be taken with a moderately-sized bucket of salt. But what about the girls? Why do transwomen ever lend credibility to this falsehood? Why don’t they just call out these guys as closet queens from the get-go?
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