Okay. So, maybe you just woke up after a wild night, looked over the bed and there beside you, happily dreaming away without a care in the world and looking as though butter wouldn’t melt, was a ladyboy; or, if you prefer, a transsexual. Possibly you’re just considering doing this. Maybe you did already, liked it, and are wondering about yourself. Maybe you’re in a relationship with a ladyboy and still confused. So I’m going to answer the question, ‘Am I gay for having sex with a ladyboy’?
This is a pretty popular question, as you’ll see from a casual Google of the terms, but almost none of the answers make any sense. They’re either written by people who have no experience of transsexuals, ladyboys, bonecas — call them as you will, they’re all the same — or they’re written by people with a hidden agenda, trying to promote a particular political point of view. Continue reading Am I gay for having sex with a ladyboy?→
Last week US President Donald Trump reversed one of the most egregious acts of anti-science perpetrated by the catastrophic Obama administration. The shock-waves are still reverberating. He rolled back the infamous ‘guidance’ to US Title IX, issued last year, which attempted to force Federally-funded programmes to remove protections for women based on their sex.
Transmen are not real men. It has nothing to do with eating quiche, either.
We’ve spent a lot of time on this blog discussing transwomen (it’s one word, by the way, not two.) But as yet, I’ve said very little about transmen. (Again, one word.) Essentially, transmen don’t exist. They are in fact lesbians with a social desire to appear as men. In the classic profile, this was consistent with their sexuality: to attract female partners, they wish to appear to be men. However, this is a social impulse rather than a sexual one.
Gender fluidity has come much under the spotlight recently. It has been suggested that there are ‘thousands of genders’, ’98 genders’, that ‘gender is a spectrum of gradations’ and even that it doesn’t exist. Yet if you walk down the street in any part of the world, you will see two genders. So how can this be?
This baffling conundrum is what you get when people don’t do enough research. In fact, BOTH the binary model and the gender-spectrum model are valid; but their relationship is being wilfully misunderstood.
In large parts of the world, but best documented in South America and Asia, the principal gender division is not between men and women but between men and ‘not-men’. I have referred to this in other pieces and it was well described by Prof Don Kulick in his 1996 book ‘Travesti’. Continue reading Men, not-men and neckbearders: a gender conundrum→