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Transmedia: Anju Thonsamay

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Anju Thongsamay

I’ve been researching the available resources both for transwomen and men who are interested in knowing more and meeting them. I have already posted some resources to this category, and will update regularly.

Anju Thongsamay, from Thailand writes an excellent blog at http://ladyboytellsall.blogspot.com

Anju’s blog is well written and informative. In a recent post discussing whether men should support their ladyboy girlfriends, Anju says: ‘It’s all up to you. I personally believe that work is big part of every human’s life. It makes you busy, teaches you the real value of money’. This is typical of her approach, which is simply to explain the life of a ladyboy.

Anju’s take is refreshingly pragmatic and direct. She’s educated and writes well and informatively. The information she provides is thoughtful and will definitely be useful to anyone seriously thinking about developing a relationship with a transwoman, not necessarily from Asia. Her site is well worth a visit, and she is personally very charming and happy to answer questions. Anju regularly updates her blog.

Once again, Anju’s blog should illustrate the fundamental truth that any man, or for that matter woman, who is interested in developing a relationship with a transwoman must absolutely recognise: transwomen are women. Anju says; ‘while we come in all shapes, sizes and types, we’re just women…expecting us to react any different than any other woman (especially to inappropriate comments, questions or behavior) is apt to garner nothing but our ire and disdain.’

Unfortunately, as readers of this blog already know, a great many men who express an interest in transwomen are actually homosexual, and frequently homophobic. They may themselves be autogynephile (that is, sexually attracted to the idea of themselves as women) and are often very predatory. The right thing for men like this to do is to hire an escort to satisfy their fantasies, because they aren’t seeking a real relationship, just the satisfaction of a fetishistic desire.

Transwomen are women and Anju’s writing repeatedly asserts this, in gentle but firm terms. Like anyone else, they have deep and powerful emotions, self-doubts, and pride. Being involved romantically with any woman is a roller-coaster, and the stronger the woman’s character, the greater will be the highs and the lows. Transwomen tend to be very powerful, deep characters. Be aware of this: a relationship with a transwoman will certainly not be anodyne, but full of colour and passion.

It’s a very good blog and I enjoy reading it. Why not check it out?

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Anju’s Blog background

Migration Update

Nope, it’s not about legions of ladyboys moving home to Europe (I wish.)

As planned, MacShreach is moving to a hosted platform in the near future. The new address will be macs-world.com

I’ve heard good and bad about the WordPress forwarding system, so for the next few weeks I’ll be double-posting both here and there, and then I will put the redirect into operation. There will be more features and a wider range of material on the hosted platform.

Meantime this is just for fun. Who doesn’t love some hot ladyboys?

http://youtu.be/Lw6VDDJx0Js

The Ideal Partner?

The Ideal Partner? dscn0779_crThe fact is that the transwoman’s dream–of finding a young, fit, handsome, financially secure, STRAIGHT Mr Right, who will stick around, will almost never happen and a lot of broken hearts are made along the way. I know there are some exceptions and I wish them all the very best.

Most straight males will eventually want children; I don’t care what they say. This will hit them usually no later than their mid-thirties, and by and large, that’s when the fantasy ends; they go and find a genetic woman who can provide what they’re looking for. Adoption just doesn’t cut it for men, unless it’s the only recourse because they are sterile themselves. Continue reading The Ideal Partner?

Gender and Sex Drive

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Dr Ray Blanchard

Ray Blanchard’s taxonomy of transsexualism is sometimes criticised for the emphasis it places on the human sex drive as a motivating force behind gender, especially gender transition. This criticism comes mainly from one section of the transsexual and transgender community, a section Blanchard defined as ‘autogynephilic’.

So I want to look a bit harder at gender and sex and the relationship between the two.

In the West, 200 years ago, it would have been easy for an outside observer to assume that gender had a huge influence on all areas of life, from child-raising through the kind of jobs people did, to social roles.

In the 21st century, however, things look very differently. Gender, we find, is not a determinant of what we do in our lives. People of feminine gender are engineers, lawyers, astronauts, doctors, chemists, politicians, teachers, welders, plumbers…and people of masculine gender, equally, are stay-home dads who take care of the house and children, nurses, kindergarten teachers, shop assistants and so on. Continue reading Gender and Sex Drive

Travels With A Ladyboy 2: Culture Shock

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Paco Park, Ermita, Manila

My plan had originally been to make my trip to Asia after Christmas, but Carla had told me that she was unlikely to be available then. I was in contact with a number of girls, but only she had that spark, and I knew I wanted to meet her. She was lively and enthusiastic, but had an edge about her and a depth too, that I liked. She had a way of just knowing what I was thinking, even before I said it, that always bodes well for a new relationship.

 So I rearranged my schedule. In fact, November is the best time to go to Southeast Asia in any case. The typhoon season should have come to an end, and the temperatures are relatively low, with lots of sunshine. In addition, flight prices are twenty per cent or so cheaper then, than in March or April. I readily persuaded myself that making the trip sooner was justified on a whole raft of counts; other, of course, than my interest in getting to know Carla a whole lot better… Continue reading Travels With A Ladyboy 2: Culture Shock

Do Transattracted Men Cross-dress?

I came across a couple of interesting threads on one of the forums I keep an eye on this week. One concerned the number of transattracted men who are themselves to some extent transgender, in that they like to cross-dress, and sometimes to be cross-dressed.

Ray Blanchard’s Theory of Autogynephilia, which describes a condition where a man is attracted to himself in the form of a woman, has been hotly criticised by many in the transsexual lobby, and even as a partial explanation of the cause of transsex as a phenomenon, it remains somewhat controversial. However, as a description of the behaviour of auto-erotic crossdressing men or transvestites, it is hard to better. Continue reading Do Transattracted Men Cross-dress?

Travels With a Ladyboy: 1. NAIA

Travels With a Ladyboy: 1. NAIA 2013-03-17-004_cr‘It’s as if a couple of jumbo-jets of Western culture crashed into a containership of Asia and the wreckage is still settling.’ These words jump out at me as I read over my notes. And it’s true; the Philippines is a cultural conundrum, a Rubik’s Cube of interlaced and interlocked themes, memes, images and sensations.

It’s not like India, where the veneer of Westernism added by a couple of hundred years of British domination is so thin it seems as flimsy as a bride’s veil, yet definitely attached, as if the bride herself is shy about lifting it, nor Thailand, where Western cultural influences seem grafted on, bizarrely co-exiting with something older and fundamentally opposed. Instead, the Philippines is a genuine melting-pot, a sculptor’s crucible where metallic elements are alloyed to make something completely new. The roots of European culture here go deep, deep into the fertile soil of Asia, and the resulting foliage is strange, at once familiar yet surprising. Continue reading Travels With a Ladyboy: 1. NAIA