On Sunday March 12th we went to watch the ‘Mr Lady’ beauty pageant at Robinson’s Place, Malalos, here in the Philippines. These pageants are a regular and important feature of life here.
During the event, an award was presented for Most Supportive Boyfriend. The winner took both his beloved and the crowd by surprise when he proposed to her on bended knee. The crowd went absolutely wild!
Transmen are not real men. It has nothing to do with eating quiche, either.
We’ve spent a lot of time on this blog discussing transwomen (it’s one word, by the way, not two.) But as yet, I’ve said very little about transmen. (Again, one word.) Essentially, transmen don’t exist. They are in fact lesbians with a social desire to appear as men. In the classic profile, this was consistent with their sexuality: to attract female partners, they wish to appear to be men. However, this is a social impulse rather than a sexual one.
In the last few years the terms transgender, transsexual and transvestite have become more mainstream than anyone could have thought a scarce ten years ago. But along the way they have become distorted and confused. So we need to look at them again and define what the words transsexual, transgender and transvestite actually mean. Continue reading Transsexual or transvestite, not ‘transgender’→
Autogynephilia is the primary stimulus for all non-homosexual male-to-female transsexualism. The original Blanchard definition was ‘a man’s propensity to be sexually aroused by the thought or image of himself as a woman.’ Others have defined it as, ‘love of oneself as a woman’. But not all men with autogynephilia present as women. They exhibit non-trans autogynephilia. They are important because they shed light on both MtF transsexualism and male homosexuality.
Non-trans autogynephilia at first seems paradoxical, but in fact, Blanchard predicted it. Amongst his possible types of autogynephilia is ‘behavioural’. In this, the man’s reward is not necessarily from dressing as a woman or from having a woman’s body parts, but from behaving as he thinks a woman would. In non-trans autogynephilia, one expression of this is a desire to have sex as a woman — in other words to be penetrated.
However there is another, much less well-known, sexualised reward available to the non-trans autogynephilic man. It may occur either with the desire to be penetrated, with others, or alone. This reward is that of being accepted as a woman. Continue reading Non-trans autogynephilia — a vital clue.→
Few clinical definitions, established by obscure researchers in obscure institutions, referring to an obscure subject, can have caused more brouhaha than Ray Blanchard’s definition of autogynephilia as ‘a man’s paraphilic propensity to be sexually aroused at the thought or image of himself as a woman.’