Okay. So, maybe you just woke up after a wild night, looked over the bed and there beside you, happily dreaming away without a care in the world and looking as though butter wouldn’t melt, was a ladyboy; or, if you prefer, a transsexual. Possibly you’re just considering doing this. Maybe you did already, liked it, and are wondering about yourself. Maybe you’re in a relationship with a ladyboy and still confused. So I’m going to answer the question, ‘Am I gay for having sex with a ladyboy’?
This is a pretty popular question, as you’ll see from a casual Google of the terms, but almost none of the answers make any sense. They’re either written by people who have no experience of transsexuals, ladyboys, bonecas — call them as you will, they’re all the same — or they’re written by people with a hidden agenda, trying to promote a particular political point of view.
Gay person versus gay relationship
The first thing to understand is that there is a difference between a gay person and a gay relationship. Homosexual males or ‘gays’ in the Western
sense, are attracted to masculinity and want to have sex with men. Transsexuals, ladyboys and so on are no different, and almost always only wish to play a feminine role in sex — that is, to be penetrated. Ray Blanchard observed that ‘(homosexual) transsexuals desire men’s bodies in exactly the same way that women do.’
The ladyboy or transsexual you just had sex with is, effectively, a fully emasculated male with the sexual and romantic desires of a woman. She is psycho-sexually inverted, the classic ‘woman born in a male body’. This is supported by MRI studies (Savic and Arver, Rametti 2011) and by review (Guillamon 2012).
Fifteen years of research
In nearly fifteen years researching and writing about this, I have never interviewed a man who admits to liking ladyboys, who is also attracted to masculinity. I doubt if you’re exceptional.
Ladyboys and other transsexuals go to great lengths to feminise themselves through hormone therapy and surgeries, as well as through dress, make-up, comportment and so on. They’re so good at making themselves beautiful that women frequently come to them for cosmetic advice and services like hairdressing. They are attractive in a conventionally feminine sense. As I wrote in The Warm Pink Jelly Express Train, they are the perfect women from a man’s point of view.
Being attracted to a girl for her turbo-charged femininity is not a homosexual response for a man, rather the opposite and again, study after study has found that gay men are not interested in transsexuals at all. Steven Gallon, the man behind one of the largest firms purveying ‘shemale’ pornography, says that he regards it as a waste of money to market his products to gay men, because they are just not interested. In fact, homosexual men not only find transsexuals unattractive, they are often sexually repulsed by them. This is because, just as heterosexual men are repulsed by masculinity, homosexual men are repulsed by femininity.
So what about the relationship?
What would a homosexual male relationship be like? Well, since male homosexuality is defined as a male attraction to maleness, then a male homosexual relationship is between two masculine males who are attracted to each other’s masculinity. Simples.
But a relationship between a straight man and a ladyboy is a relationship in which one party, the man, is attracted to the other’s femininity while his partner is attracted to his masculinity. That’s a straight relationship.
Ah but, you insist, finger in the air, there are still two penises! Gay!
Er, no. This is because not only are transsexuals psycho-sexually inverted, they can be physically so too. To do this, they allow their anuses to be penetrated. They play the female role and their bodies permit them to do this, because they do have an opening that approximates to a vagina; and their partners penetrate that.
It is a fairly widespread myth that all men involved with unoperated transsexuals like to be penetrated, but this is wrong. Even amongst those who seek out TS sex workers, the proportion is only about 40% (Kulick). The interviews I’ve conducted suggest that very few men in serious relationships with ladyboys are willing to be penetrated. Most don’t and, indeed, most transsexuals simply will not, especially in a romantic relationship. This has little to do with hormones, although this might be the reason they give; it is much more to do with not wanting to play a male sexual role.
The myth of homosexual equivalency
This is that both partners in a relationship in which both were born male must be homosexual. It had no existence prior to around 1970. Prior to that, homosexuals were defined as the recipient male partners of men. The false equivalency was invented by a group of homosexual activists who thought that homosexual males should suppress their natural femininity in order to be accepted by society. Their aim was to synthesise the New Gay Man — that well-known character whose ghastly faux masculinity is bought at the price of such profound self-loathing.
Central to their strategy has always been to assert that homosexuality could be defined in absolute, essentialist terms. Two penises, past or present, make both parties gay, irrespective of the roles played in the relationship or the assumed gender of the parties. They have sought to erase the understanding of homosexuality that existed for thousands of years, which defined it such that the person who played the role of woman — and was penetrated — was homosexual, but the other party was not.
This group, known as ‘accommodationists’, spent decades trying to persuade transsexuals to be gay ‘men’ and their lovers that they were gay too — which they’re not. For fifty years they have been policing the gay community, bullying feminine gay men into ‘manning up’ and suppressing effeminacy. But, as I wrote 12 years ago now, ‘transsexuals drive a coach and horses though Queer Theory’ as well as all the rest of the preposterous mumbo-jumbo articulated by the left.
Gender is driven by sexuality
They prove that gender is driven by sexuality: feminine boys who want men become sexy girls to seduce them. It’s that simple. They prove that the accommodationist ‘New Gay Man’ model is at best not universal and most likely a complete sham.
As poor old Jim Fouratt said fifteen years ago, in what now seems like a plaintive wail in the wilderness, trannies will destroy the New Gay Man and his entire way of life. They show the New Gay Man up as the socio-political device that it is, and a good thing too. Most feminine gay ‘men’ would be far better hitting the hormones, growing their hair and getting a boob job, than persisting with their pretence of masculinity. Why should they suppress their natural sexuality to suit someone else’s political agenda?
Destroying the false equivalency is vital to liberating transsexuals from a grim hegemony of accommodationist New Gay Men, lesbian supremacists and transvestite autogynephiles that, prior to a few years ago ago, looked like it might suffocate them altogether.
It would also recognise that their partners are, by and large, heterosexual men. This would encourage more men to invest emotionally in serious relationships with transsexuals. These men are currently held back by the lie that their love for their partners makes them homosexual. They’re not, even though their partners are. Not only are they straight, they are conventionally so. Why should they allow themselves to be called that which they are not? Men, especially powerful ones, are rightly cautious of being misrepresented in such ways.
The men in relationships with transsexuals are not themselves homosexual, and the relationships themselves are straight: only one party is homosexual and she presents as a woman socially, sexually and romantically.
Ladyboys and transsexuals affirm straight sexual roles
It is often the case that such relationships are more affirming of conventional straight sexual roles than male/female ones, especially in the West.
Indeed, many men in stable relationships with transsexuals are so because they desire partners who are happy to play conventional roles. As the feminist movement has evolved into female supremacism, men have become disinclined to accept the bargain on offer, of being a doormat in exchange for occasional sex. Ladyboys are just as keen on sex as men are and they provide a desirable, practical alternative to entitled women. After all, they want you to put them on a pedestal, to hold open doors for them and to protect them. It is hardly an inconvenience for someone, whose entire life is focussed on being successful as woman, to be treated as one.
The supply of sex
Control over the supply of sex has always been the primary weapon in the
female supremacists’ arsenal. They use it ruthlessly to impose their will on men. They have even invented the ridiculous concept of the ‘male menopause’ in order to convince men that after a certain age, women can simply shut off the supply of sex altogether.
A ladyboy/transsexual runs as roughshod over this strategy as she does over the New Gay Man. They make the wildest sex imaginable available to their partners, more or less on demand, and all they ask in return is to be treated like a lady. How could it possibly be gay to accommodate that?
It is not ‘homophobic’ to refuse to be labelled as something one is not. By refusing to accept the claims on our lives that leftist agitators make, we stand for our own freedom of choice and ultimately, the most important human right that we have: the ownership of our own bodies and lives. We are not beholden to collectivist groups that would use us for their political gain and we do not have to accept the social roles they would cast us in.
It is a delightful paradox that having sex with a ladyboy, for a man, is to take a stand for conservative social values against politically-motivated and unscrupulous ‘thinkers’, whose intent is to erase the sexual binary that is the foundation of human culture and thus to destroy our society itself.
When you look at your ladyboy lover’s sleeping face in the soft light of dawn, remember that you are doing your bit to support our culture against the perversions of accommodationist New Gay Men and lesbian female supremacists, Western transvestite autogynephilic fetishists, the Snowflake SJWs and all their ghastly fellow-travellers. Enjoy that feeling, then do her again. It’s for the good of society and it will certainly be fun.
Making love to a ladyboy doesn’t make you gay; far from it. In the moment of coitus, the insertion of tumescent penis inside her warm soft body, as she reclines in your arms, surrendering herself, gasps of passion escaping her mouth, her long legs around you, the intensity of feeling almost unsupportable, you recreate her as a woman and affirm yourself as a man. You join the gods by savouring their power of creation.
Doesn’t get any hotter.
Also published on Medium.